Written by: Nancy Malcolm
Recently, I had the privilege of driving with two of my grandsons in the car. I was instantly reminded of days gone by when my daughters were younger and I would be taking one of them and a friend somewhere. Oh, the conversations they would have!
But, as life has unfolded, we are a true blended family now, my husband and I. We each maintain good relationships with our ex-spouses and often, we are all together at family events because of our children.
On this particular drive, one of the boys asked me, “Did you know PaPa used to be married to Nana?” The other one, in shock said, “They did not….did they?” I said that yes, I knew that and before I could go any further, they were into a discussion about life, divorce and marriage. I proceeded to explain the situation in simple terms, but as we all know, it’s not a simple matter. Still, as we drove, I was glad they felt comfortable enough to ask me questions and to share their thoughts.
A big part of me is gut wrenchingly sad that these two precious boys even know about divorce, but life rarely fits into a cookie cutter mold of perfection. I wish I could make their little lives smooth, peaceful and worry-free forever. I know I cannot control other people’s behavior or tell them how to live their lives; however, I can trust in a power greater than myself to take care of these boys and send blessings their way. I can be a loving Nannie and be the best grandparent I can be. I can provide a safe and accepting home for visits and car ride discussions.
And as is the case with little boys, as suddenly as that conversation started, it ended and their latest Lego purchase took center stage. Just for today, I can let go of worry and enjoy the ride.